Are You A Fraud?

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Let's be real – have you  ever had that nagging feeling like you're totally faking it? That you're just winging it until someone discovers you have NO idea what you're doing? Yeah, that's imposter syndrome, and it can be a real bitch.


Imposter Syndrome creeps into the minds of even the most accomplished individuals, making them question their worth and abilities. 

Research has shown that imposter syndrome can have a significant impact on mental health leading to increased levels of stress anxiety and depression. It can also hinder personal and professional growth as people may be reluctant to take on new challenges or opportunities for fear of failure.


Imposter syndrome can look like this: 

  • "I was lucky, not skilled” -  I understand how it feels to have been praised for your work, only to feel the pressure to consistently deliver and then you end up flunking. The internal dialogue can be overwhelming, leading to doubts and a persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud.


  • Gifted kid burnout - The most brilliant child from primary all through secondary school, then you get to university and realize that you’re not as smart as you used to be. Or you even struggle to grasp the most basic things when you used to be the star kid when you were younger?


  • The comparison game - Everyone on social media seems to have it together, except you. This one has a new job and moved into a bigger apartment. The other one just got a new car when you’re struggling to figure out what to even do with your life. 


  • Fear of being found out - Waiting for someone to tap you on the shoulder, the moment they realize you don't belong. Just like when Jessica Pearson finds out that Mike Ross never went to law school in Suits. 


Let me tell you this, you’re not alone. It's not just you!  Imposter syndrome is very common. It messes with your confidence, mental health, and can stop you from reaching your full potential. The truth is, many of us grapple with similar feelings. You should recognize that imposter syndrome doesn't discriminate; it affects people from all walks of life.



So, how can you overcome imposter syndrome? 


Start by practicing self-compassion. Understand that making mistakes or facing difficulties doesn't diminish your value. Celebrate your achievements, big or small, and recognize that growth often comes with challenges.


Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or mentors who can offer guidance and support. Sharing your experiences can be liberating, creating connections that help dispel the isolation imposter syndrome can bring.


Your journey is yours alone, filled with twists, turns, and unexpected challenges. Embrace it with open arms, acknowledging that imposter syndrome is a shared experience that can be overcome. You have the resilience to rise above these doubts.


You're capable, you've got this, and you definitely deserve to be where you are (except you stole the mandate sha - like some people I know)


How has imposter syndrome affected you? 

Do you recognize it yet? 

How do you handle it? 

Do well to let me know in the comments. 


Toodles 💕




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